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His advice: Get out of your own way, and don’t feel self-conscious about getting help when you need it. It’s great to identify your values and “deal breakers,” but a laundry list of must-have items often serves as a tall wall between you and finding your person, and a widely missed secret is: even if you could find every single thing you’re looking for on paper, you might not have chemistry with that person once you find them.
Most people have trauma that leaks into their love life, and everyone has some bias. A therapist, coach, or professional matchmaker can help you sort through some of that, and arm you against a surplus of content out there that might not be helpful to you specifically. Pro tip: Not everyone needs to love themselves perfectly and heal all wounds to be ready to share affection, but putting in the work that applies to your own emotional reality is a great launching point for finding your partner.
Bio: Vince is a DEI (diversity, equity, and inclusion)-focused matchmaker, blog author, and industry thought leader for America’s #1 matchmaking service, Tawkify. With a wide-ranging background in business, the arts, and psychology, his work centers on the dating experiences of LGTBQ+ individuals, offering illuminating, critical thinking and data-driven solutions to our pursuit of success and companionship.
Through his perceptive and empathetic lens, his blog invites readers on a journey unraveling the complexities and bittersweet reality of modern dating, all with a deliberately cheeky sprinkle of whimsy. Don’t miss out on Vince’s captivating insights—follow his blog and join real conversations on Tawkify social media platforms for candid commentary that explores our modern emotional existence, and some fun and compelling takeaways. Feel free to connect with Vince on LinkedIn.