Finding a hookup on the internet is a lot like trying to find a needle in a haystack — except with a much better chance of you ending up getting scammed.

That’s why many people turn to sexting rather than in-person hookups. Sexting can be incredibly hot, it’s completely safe, and it’s easy to find a willing partner — if you know where to look.

Unfortunately, most of the best sexting sites and apps out there are geared towards paying customers, but in the guide below we’ll also show you how to find some of the hottest free sexting communities on the internet.

Best Free and Paid Sexting Sites

There are dozens of sites and apps out there that require you to put money down before you can start sexting. While those have their place, there are several other sites that are just as much fun — and completely free.

Here are a few of our favorite sexting apps and sites:

Best Free Sexting Sites for Sexts and Nudes Only:

  1. Best sexting site overall – Arousr
  2. Best 100% free sexting message boards – /r/SextingFriendFinder
  3. Best free sexting groups – Kik + DirtyKikGroups
  4. Downloadable app for one-on-one sexting – WhatsApp
  5. Naughty IMs sent from multiple people in the chatroom – LewdChat

Best Sexting Sites With Optional Video or Cam:

  1. Sext with a live model cam to cam – JerkMate
  2. Another way to sext on video chat – ChatRandom
  3. Watch users as you sext freaky messages – Adult Friend Finder
  4. Best for trading nudes while sexting – SnapSext
  5. Best for dirty talking to cam models – Chaturbate
  6. Intellectual sexting with married people – Ashley Madison
  7. High-quality sexy conversations with sexy colleges girl – Seeking
  8. Best sexting site or app for women – BeNaughty
  9. NSA sexting with strangers – NoStringsAttached
  10. Instantaneous fapping through texts – FapChat
  11. The original disappearing nudes app – Snapchat
  12. Classic way to sext and meet up – Tinder
  13. Best app for secure sexting – GetConfide

1. Arousr – Professional Sexters and Erotic Texters

Arousr works on a credit system — it costs a certain amount of credits to talk to someone. However, they start you out with 100 free credits to get your feet wet.

It’s geared towards men who are looking to talk to women. There are plenty of beautiful women available to chat with — but they’re doing it for money, not love. 

The more credits you give them, the more they make, so they have plenty of incentive to keep you hooked. 

This sexting website also offers voice messages and video chat, both of which cost more credits. Still, you can sext with your girl of choice until you develop a rapport, at which point you can escalate things if you desire.

At Arousr, you’ll chat with professional sexters, so the experience is likely to be among the hottest you’ll find anywhere — if you can get past the fact that the girl’s heart may not be in it, that is.

2. Reddit – Free Message Board for Sexting

Reddit is one of the biggest sites on the internet and completely free to use (unless you’re buying gold, of course). Like the internet itself, Reddit has a salacious side.

There are multiple subreddits where you can find a partner willing to sext you. You can find partners based on your kink, sexual orientation, or just people who are also really into sexting.

The actual sexting can take place through Reddit’s private messaging app, or you can use Reddit to find a partner and then take the conversation to the app of your choice.

You won’t find a site with more potential partners than Reddit (although they’re not all there to sext, of course). Better yet, by being able to see their posting history, you’ll have a better chance of weeding out the scammers and catfishers.

3. JerkMate – Sext and Jerk-off with Live Webcam Models

JerkMate is another service that pairs people with willing partners via webcam. The idea is that you can masturbate in front of — and with encouragement from — other real people in their chat rooms.

It’s completely free — to join, anyway. Obviously, if you want special treatment or private shows from some of their cam models, you’ll have to pay for the privilege. 

In addition to the webcam, there’s a chat feature, so you can sext using that while also enjoying the show. However, you can talk dirty to one another as well, and that’s probably easier than watching one another type in silence.

The good news is that it’s almost completely anonymous and full of potential partners, so you can find new people to chat with every time you log on. It may not be the best sexting site, but you’re sure to have lots of fun regardless.

4. Kik – Most Popular Way to Sext On a Smartphone

The big appeal to Kik is its anonymity, so if you’re worried about your activities becoming public knowledge it’s a great choice. The messages are only stored on the devices of the people sexting, so even Kik won’t know what you’re talking about.

The catch is that you have to know the username of the person you want to sext beforehand, but it’s fairly easy to find people. 

You can simply Google “kik sexting groups” or something similar, or you can check social media. Twitter works especially well — look for something like “#kiksexting.”

There are also entire forums dedicated to finding sexting partners on Kik. One such website is Kik Dirty, which is full of users eager to sext.

Once you track someone down, the great thing about Kik is that you can get right down to business. After all, you’re both on a sexting app for the same thing, so no sense in wasting time.

5. ChatRandom – Quick Sex Chat Website

ChatRandom eliminates one of the sneakiest hassles involved with many sexting sites: the difficulty in choosing a partner.

The site pairs you with a random partner, so you can get up and sexting within seconds of logging on and finding a chat room. 

Of course, being set up with a random person means they may not share your interests; in that case, all you have to do is click “next” and you’ll move on to another partner.

You can filter your partners by their gender, relationship status, or location, and they have a nifty app that lets you continue the fun on your phone.

It’s all done through video chatting, though, so if you prefer words on the page it might not be for you. Also, it’s not explicitly geared towards exchanging sext messages, so some of the people you match with may not be there for the same reasons you are.

6. LewdChat – Private Freaky Messages in a Chatroom

LewdChat is one of the easiest and most anonymous free chat sites on the internet. All you have to do is pick out a username and get started.

You’ll start off in one of their public chat rooms, where you can check out the vibe and see if anyone piques your interest. Once you find someone suitable, you can take things to your own private chat room.

It has an incredibly basic layout, but you’re not there for pretty web design. If all you want is to get up and sexting as quickly as possible, LewdChat is about as straightforward as it gets.

7. WhatsApp – A Simple Way to Sext Using Emojis

Like Kik, WhatsApp has a reputation for only being used by people who are looking to keep their activities on the down-low. 

Many people use WhatsApp to sext people they already know (and who want to keep their sexts private from their partners). However, you can find strangers to sext on the app as well.

WhatsApp has groups, much like Facebook. All it takes is finding the right group and working your magic until you find someone willing to communicate with you.

The appeal of WhatsApp is that anything you send — sexts, photos, videos, whatever — will expire after 24 hours. You don’t have to worry about your personal info getting out into the world at large.

Best Premium Sexting Sites and Apps

Free apps and sites are great, but most of them are either designed for another purpose entirely or were created as cheaply as possible.

To get the best experience possible, you may have to pay. The sites below can offer incredible sexting opportunities, but be ready to put your credit card down.

1. AdultFriendFinder – Variety Forms of Adult Text Messaging

AdultFriendFinder bills itself as “the world’s largest swinger community,” and it’s largely geared towards online dating and creating the opportunity for in-person meetups. It can also be used for sexting, however.

They have a variety of messaging options, including chat, email, or video streaming, so you can definitely find a method that suits your sexting preferences.

Their search engine also lets you filter users according to a variety of criteria, including location, kink, or their hotness rating. If you want to find a sexting partner that caters to a specific fetish, this is a great site for doing just that.

While AdultFriendFinder has a lot of cool features and a huge user base, you may discover that many people are only looking to sext as a prelude to an in-person meeting. If you want to keep things virtual, you may be better off on another site.

2. Ashley Madison – Safe Way to Have an Affair Through Sexting

Ashley Madison is a dating site designed to help people cheat on their spouses, and cheating can take many forms — even sexting. If you’re willing to bend your morals a little bit, you won’t find a shortage of potential partners who are all raring to go.

The way it works is you set up your profile and start trying to chat with other members — just like any other dating site. However, with Ashley Madison, you know everyone’s looking for the same thing and has an equal amount to lose.

You can certainly limit your interactions with other members to sexting, but since everyone on the site is risking their marriage just by being on the site, many people won’t be satisfied with just dirty talk. They’ll likely want to escalate things.

The good news is that, if you do find a sexting partner, the taboo factor will make everything even hotter.

3. SnapSext – Snap a Nude and Text to a Sexy Fling

SnapSext works a lot like Arousr, except you pay by the day or month instead of using a credit system. It has a huge database of users, ensuring you’ll find a partner who meets all of your criteria with little effort.

We do mean “little effort,” too. The site has a powerful search engine that makes it quick and easy to track down exactly what you’re looking for.

When registering, they’ll ask for your location so they can match you up with users near you (although you can look in other areas as well). This creates the possibility of future meetups, even if that’s not necessarily the goal of the site.

You’ll get notifications if someone views your profile, which helps facilitate conversations. You’ll need to have a high-quality profile pic to get more attention, though, so be prepared to take a few selfies.

You can also live stream video or share pics, and the site has cam girl rooms and private chat rooms available too. For the most part, though, people use it for adult chat with attractive strangers.

4. Seeking – Online Sext Dating Site

Short for “Seeking Arrangement,” Seeking is an online dating site that hooks attractive young women up with men (many of whom are twice their age at least) that are willing to spoil them in exchange for companionship.

While that may put a bit of a damper on your enthusiasm level, it makes the women just as excited to strike up a conversation as the men, which is rare on dating sites.

You’ll have to pay to play with any woman you connect with, but the two of you can negotiate an arrangement that works for you both. If all you want to do is sext, then you shouldn’t have any shortage of lovely ladies to choose from.

You can sext using their messaging system, but it’s likely to be clunkier than some of your other options. You’re better off using Seeking to find your sugar baby and then taking the action to another platform.

They also have a video chat feature, but it can only be used by people who have already connected with one another.

5. FapChat – Easiest Way to Trade Nudes and Jerk Off

If you want to put a face (and body) to the person you’re sexting with, FapChat is the way to go. It’s a webcam community that allows you to watch up to 16 feeds at once, which is great for group chatting.

You can limit yourself to one-on-one video chatting as well if you want something more intimate. There’s also the option of offline mailing if you want to take things more slowly.

In addition to the feeds, they also offer private chat rooms, so you can focus on that if sexting is what you’re after. 

FapChat is a wonderful option for any adults that want to talk dirty, but if you’re only interested in sexting, you may find it lacking.

6. BeNaughty – Women Can Exclusively Sext with Cool and Sexy Guys

BeNaughty is a hookup site that attempts to put the power in the woman’s hands. Ladies can message men for free, while men have to pay for the privilege of reaching out.

You’ll have to pay for a lot of things on the site, in fact, like the ability to see other users’ photos. 

Most of the profiles are pretty bland, so you’ll need to take a leap of faith (or just rely on their profile pic) before reaching out to someone.

However, the site only offers one mode of communication: chat. That works wonderfully for someone looking to sext.

Many of the women on BeNaughty are looking for a serious relationship, but there are plenty of ladies who’d be willing to spend hours chatting with you if you’re interesting enough.

7. NoStringsAttached – NSA Discreet Sexting in An Intimate Setting

Much like Ashley Madison, NoStringsAttached was created for married people to find extramarital partners. However, they offer the option of “virtual encounters” as well as short-term hookups.

You have to pay a monthly fee, and in exchange, you’ll be able to contact members as well as watch their videos and spy on their pictures.

Women are extremely active in terms of loading videos and hosting cam sessions on the site, so you’ve got a good chance of finding someone willing to talk to you. However, some of these ladies are pros, so while they’ll happily spend all day sexting with you, they won’t do it for free.

While NoStringsAttached is certainly a good place to have fun, Ashley Madison’s larger user base may make it the better option at this time.

8. Snapchat – Most Popular Way to Sext Some Freaky Things

Popular with teens, Snapchat is usually considered a way to communicate with people you already know rather than a good way to find new friends. However, it doesn’t take much to expand your social circle using the app.

Much like with Kik, there are websites dedicated to listing usernames of people willing to sext on Snapchat. You can just visit one of those sites and start working your way through the listings.

Photos on Snapchat will disappear after 24 hours, as will written messages — unless one of you saves them, that is. The app will notify the other person of what you’ve done, so be sure you have their permission (if you care about that sort of thing).

Part of the allure of Snapchat is all the filters they offer, so if you decide to share photos or videos, you can always alter them in creative (and identity-concealing) ways.

9. Tinder – Swipe Left or Right and Sext Through Instant Messages

Tinder is the go-to dating app for millions of people, and some users spend more time swiping left and right than they do working their actual jobs.

Sexting isn’t the purpose of the app, but it does happen with impressive regularity. If you match with a user, it will give you the opportunity to chat with them — and where that chat goes is up to you.

Given that Tinder shows you people in your general area, it’s likely that anyone you sext with will want to meet up in person eventually. So, you can either take things to the next level at that time or ghost them and start all over again with someone new. 

10. GetConfide – A Private and Protected Sexting App

If you’re really worried about your sexts falling into the wrong hands, then GetConfide is definitely the way to go. 

Each message you send with the app is encrypted, self-destructing, and screenshot proof. That may seem like overkill for your basic sext, but if you’re paranoid about your love life showing up on the internet, it’s great for giving you peace of mind.

There’s not exactly a bustling sexting community on GetConfide, though, so it’s best used with people you already know. If you have a partner who’s hesitant about sexting because they’re afraid of exposure, then the app may be just what they need to shed their vanilla side.

Sexting Tips, and Sexting Site FAQs

Are sexting sites and apps safe?

Some are and some aren’t. While you won’t catch any STDs from them, your personal information could be at risk, so be careful who you share your pics and videos with. If you’re especially concerned about it, you should direct all your partners to secure services like GetConfide.

What about my financial information? Is it safe?

That will depend on which site or app you use. Generally speaking, the bigger ones are trustworthy — that’s how they got so big in the first place. However, always monitor your bank statements and other financial information to make sure you aren’t getting taken for a ride.  Every site listed in this guide has been verified by our editorial team as 100% legit and safe to use.

How can I avoid any embarrassing situations while looking for a partner?

Everyone on these sites and apps is either looking for the same thing you are, or they’re aware that they could come across people looking to sext. There’s nothing to be ashamed of — just be sure to take “no” for an answer.

Why use sexting sites or apps?

At first glance, a sexting site or app might seem like a little bit of a letdown. After all, why go through all that work without ever physically consummating the relationship?

As it turns out, though, using a sexting site has a few big advantages over traditional hookups. Here are just a few:


  • It’s safer than meeting in person: You don’t have to worry about whether the person on the other end of the line is a psycho, as long as they keep the chat hot. After all, you’re never going to meet them in person.
  • No risk of STDs: You can explore your wildest kinks and fantasies without worrying about picking something up along the way.
  • Most sites are completely anonymous: You can have your fun without the risk that your chat logs will make their way back to your boss — or worse, your mother.
  • It’s a lot of fun: Sexting gives you most of the benefits of actual sex with little of the risk, so it’s no surprise that it’s such a popular pastime. 


Of course, finding a partner can be a chore, which is where sexting sites and apps come in. These provide you with an endless supply of willing partners, each of whom is just as eager to get down to business as you are.

How to sext?

Part of the fun of sexting is that you and your partner can set your own rules and limits, so as long as everyone’s having fun, you don’t need to worry about taking things too far.

That being said, there are a few guidelines to keep in mind so that you don’t overstep your bounds:


  • Always get consent: If you’re on a site dedicated to sexting, consent is implied to a certain extent. However, you should still make sure your partner is cool with whatever you’re doing, and stop if they tell you to (or if they use their safe word, if you’re into some consensual non-consent play).
  • What happens in the chat stays in the chat: As tempting as it may be, you should never share your partner’s pics, vids, or chat logs without their explicit permission.
  • Be enthusiastic: If you’re having fun, let your partner know. If you’re not, try to steer the conversation in another direction, or find a different partner.
  • Don’t be judgmental: Has your partner taken the chat into a direction that doesn’t interest you? You can let them know that you’re not interested without kink-shaming them, so try to let them down gently.
  • Be as specific as possible: Don’t beat around the bush (no pun intended). Let your partner know exactly what you’re doing. If you’re stumped, remember to utilize the five senses to describe the action.

What are the best sexting tips?

While you might find sexting to be incredibly hot, it’s understandable if you’re not terribly confident in your abilities. It takes practice to master, after all, and you’re just now learning of places to work on your skills.

Below, we’ve arranged a few tips you can use to quickly up your game. Mastering these suggestions will soon make you one of the most masterful sexters around — the rest you can learn through repetition.

  • Take your time: Don’t just rush to the good stuff right away. Go slowly, and let the anticipation build. This goes with sharing pictures or videos, too — leave yourself somewhere to go. 
  • Be confident: Nothing will sabotage a sexting session like hesitation. Ask for what you want, and do it boldly. That’s especially true on sites with a lot of anonymous members. After all, the worst thing that can happen is you’ll move on to the next partner.
  • Put some effort into your pics: Don’t be lazy and use the first picture you take. Spend some time experimenting with angles and lighting. Also, it’s a good idea to take some pics ahead of time so you have some high-quality options ready to go in the heat of the moment.
  • Share what their sexts are doing to you: Everyone wants to know that they’re doing a good job, especially when sexting. If your partner says something that especially turns you on, let them know — they’ll most likely be happy to keep doing it.

Mix fantasy with reality: Draw on some of your hottest real-life experiences when you run out of things to say, but don’t be afraid to use your wildest fantasies, either. This is supposed to be fun, after all, so do what turns you on the most.

Sexting Examples

All the advice in the world will only do you so good — sometimes you just need to watch the masters in action.

Below, we’ve included screenshots of some of the best sexts we’ve ever seen. You can learn everything you need to know from these people, so get out your pen and paper (or just your smartphone and chat app).

This is a great example of specificity in action. Notice how both partners are conveying exactly what they want to do, and both are responding enthusiastically to the other person’s suggestions.

The specificity in this one is good as well, but what really sets it apart is all the sensory language. He’s describing the sensations they’ll both experience — and making her eager to experience them.

This screenshot offers a good example of back-and-forth play. The man encourages her to share her fantasy, and then responds with enthusiasm while simultaneously taking things to the next level at the end.

What are the other types of Adult Chat Sites?

You can read about the other types of adult sex chat here.  Instead of just sexting you can have Chatroulette style sites where you are randomly matched with other people masturbating online.  Or you can simply join an adult sex chat room like lewdchat where everyone is having a big cyber orgy together purely through text.

Our Final Thoughts on Free Sexting

Sexting is incredibly fun and exciting, but unless you’re in a committed relationship, finding opportunities to enjoy it can be difficult. The sites and apps above all offer the chance to put your skills to the test with a variety of willing partners whenever the mood strikes you.

Regardless of whether you want to chat on your phone or computer, or whether you want to include pics and videos in your sessions, the services above will be able to accommodate you.

They make it easy to sext as often as you like, with as many people as you like — the hard part is convincing yourself to stop.


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