Claudine Arthurs
Her advice: compliment your date. Find something you like about them and tell them. You can say, “Just knowing you for ten minutes, it seems like you’re really great with first impressions. You’re confident and warm.” Or, “Just meeting you for ten minutes, it seems like you’re a very social person.” This is a great way to express what you think, give them a compliment, and give them a chance to correct you, if you’re wrong…and start a conversation.
If you’re not good at flirting, find someone (for example, a dating coach who specializes in flirting) who can help you get some hands-on experience. Practice talking to strangers. Get comfortable flirting with strangers. The point of flirting is exchanging banter without being attached to the outcome. You’re not asking for a date. You’re just having fun conversing, so when you’re on a date with someone you care about, you’re relaxed.
Learn how to ask your date questions that are charming and easy-going. Have a playful mindset! Instead of asking what someone does for a living, say something like, “I’m going to guess what you do for a living. Tell me two truths and one lie about your job.” And see what happens from there. Hopefully, your date is creative and you two have a laugh. The whole point of a date is to see if you want to see that person again. You should be such splendid company that they want to see you again. You made them feel so good that they want a second date! That means you are a great dater!
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