Barbie DavenporteAfterDarkLA.com's avid (and submissive) sex fan mentioned passively in a Twitter conversation that she's not only into being a pro-dom's uber-sub, she's one of many women who get hot and bothered by the thought of rape simulation.
Via studies conducted by various entities in the last three decades, on average about 40 percent of women have admitted to getting off to (or at least having) rape fantasies. This is according to a Psychology Today report published online earlier this year. The most recent report I could find made public online was one by North Texas University researchers who surveyed 350-or-so undergrads asking them their take on the rape fantasy.
The question: How often have you fantasized being overpowered/forced/raped by a man/woman to have oral/vaginal/anal sex against your will?
Sixty-two percent said yes. But the problem here is the subjectivity of the question. “Overpowered by” is a whole hell of a lot different than “raped by.” Not to discount the study by any means – but it's another example of why explaining the rape fantasy is so difficult.
Are we talking about strapped down with violence and screaming? Or holding a woman down with bare hands, bulging muscles and an adrenalin rush? One woman might consider both to be rape, while another could name the latter simple domination.
But because of its subjectivity, I thought it'd be fascinating to have Leah, our pretty Twitter princess, explain her personal feelings toward the act of submission and why the idea of rape makes her more wet than weary.
I have always had a secret that is something beyond the realm of some people. A thought so taboo that it goes beyond simply raising an eyebrow.
The fetish – if you'd call it that – may be disturbing to some, yet at the same time can stir up an intense level of curiosity.
Rape fantasy.
In normal day-to-day life in which we have jobs, car payments, mortgages, do you ever imagine how it might feel to completely lose control – not by choice – and at the same time actually like it?
I have often wondered if my fantasy stems from the need to release the power I utilize every day. But I've never been an active feminist nor have I ever been the “natural born leader” type, and I certainly don't have any employees I administer.
Why is being “taken” such a turn-on for me?
The erotica I enjoy usually involves one-sided desire — non-consensual with an unwilling partner – that soon turns into something else. I have always found romantic-type of stories to be quite boring and predictable.
I am turned on by power and the potential of it.
Just not mine.
The power of the other person makes me the subjective weakling. It's not about me losing the control – it is about the other person having it.
This has reflected on my life outside of the bedroom, too. Since the age of 20, I have never dated anyone who wasn't in the in-charge position, or had the potential to “make it big.”
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A lawyer with his own airplane; men who were jet setters with clients in different continents; surgeons, executives, bankers.
These are the type of men I associate with, not because I'm a snob, and not because I need the money. It's not being a “gold digger.” I like the idea of what these men can do. What they can ask for, want — and get.
Therefore in my sex life, I want to be that man's minion. I want to be overpowered by their sexuality and be made powerless with no option for escape or defense. In the most extreme way.
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