Written in Partnership with Pleasure SeekerWhen one-on-one sex gets stale, it may be time to add another person to your couple in order to spice things up.
Unfortunately, that’s easier said than done, as finding a partner to join you for a threesome is nothing but a fantasy for most people — or at least it was, until the good ol’ internet came about.
Today, there are many sex sites and apps that can help you find the perfect third for your next romp, but they’re not all created equal. Below, we’ll take a look at the best threesome dating sites on the internet today.
We can’t guarantee you’ll get lucky — we can only guarantee that these are the best apps and websites out there for organizing a ménage à trois!
The Top Threesome Dating Sites for 2021
First Look
- Top threesome website overall – Adult Friend Finder
- Great for fetishes & kinky sex – Fet Life
- Easy virtual threesomes – Dirty Reddit R4R
- Good for ‘arranged’ threesomes – Seeking Arrangement
- Fewest fake accounts – 3Fun
- Best for married dating – AshleyMadison
- Find many polyamorous partners – Feeld
- Good for gay threesomes – Grindr
- Dedicated threesome app – 3somer
1. Adult Friend Finder — Best Threesome Dating App Overall
Pros
- Huge user base
- Caters to any fetish
- Centered on casual sex
- Includes people exclusively looking for threesomes
Cons
- Members aren’t model-quality
- Paying for a membership is a necessity
Adult Friend Finder is an absolutely huge swinger and threesome website. You can find people who are into virtually every fetish under the sun — and yes, that includes threesomes.
The great thing about this site is that it’s entirely geared around finding casual sex partners. Everyone’s there for sex — so all you have to do is offer them an opportunity.
There are even people there exclusively to find threesome partners. That includes couples looking for a third, bulls looking for hotwives, and everything in between.
Many of the people on there are “real” (read: not models), and you have to sign up for a premium membership to do anything worthwhile on there, but overall it’s a great place for a couple to find your next unicorn.
Read the full AdultFriendFinder review
2. FetLife — Best for A Kinky Ménage à Trois
Pros
- Good for BDSM & fetishes
- Truly express your desires
- Largely free to use
- Doubles as a kinky social network
Cons
- Relatively limited partner pool
- User base skews male
“FetLife” is short for “Fetish Life,” so that should give you a pretty good idea of what to expect from the site.
Most of their clientele enjoys things like BDSM, making this a great choice for doms looking for subs (or vice versa). This is good if your tastes run a little extreme, but you should understand it also limits the partner pool somewhat.
The good news is that you can really let your freak flag fly, and since it functions more as a social network than a bdsm dating site, you might just make some new friends as well.
Best of all, it’s largely free (although you can make a donation in exchange for a few extra features). The demographics skew heavily male, though, as nearly 75% of all members are men.
3. Dirty Reddit R4R — Best Free Option For A Couple On A Budget
Pros
- Free to use
- Mods effectively weed out bots & spammers
- Great for virtual hookups
- Ban on personal information helps keep you safe
Cons
- Lots of non-relevant posts to sift through
- Not quite as active as it seems at first glance
You don’t have to spend money to find the perfect partner, and Dirty Reddit R4R is proof of that. Be sure you’re on the “dirty” version, though, as there’s also a regular R4R that’s better-suited for conventional dating.
Dirty R4R hooks you up with users across the globe. This creates a lot of useless posts for you to weed through, however, and causes the site to look more active than it really is.
If you can find a diamond in the rough, though, it’s one of the best adult dating sites out there. They limit how often you can post, which cuts down on the bots and spammers, and they don’t allow the posting of personal information, which should help you feel safe.
This site is best-suited for virtual hookups, but given that it’s completely free, there’s no sense in not giving it a shot.
4. Seeking Arrangement — Best for “Arranged” Threesomes
Pros
- Great for meeting young, attractive women
- Matches are a “sure thing”
- Allows for a long-term arrangement
- Not likely to threaten existing couple
Cons
- Requires quite a bit of cash
- May feel skeevy to some
Seeking is designed primarily to hook sugar daddies up with sugar babies. This arrangement is skeevy and off-putting to some, but it’s a great way to find a gorgeous young woman to hook up with.
Maybe she’ll be into a threesome – it depends.
Still, this arrangement (get it?) solves several of the biggest threesome-related problems for many couples. For one thing, it guarantees sex with an attractive woman, and it also allows for the situation to develop over time without threatening the primary relationship.
It’s not for everyone, but it could be a great option for some couples with cash to splash.
5. 3Fun — Fewest Fake Accounts Of All Threesome Websites
Pros
- Completely dedicated to polyamory
- Allows for synchronized chat
- Over 2 million mostly young members
- Does a great job weeding out fake profiles
Cons
- Limited user base outside big cities
- Have to pay to use most features
As the name suggests, 3Fun is completely dedicated to polyamory, with a special emphasis on finding partners for threesomes.
It requires users to link their profile to a working phone or Facebook account, as well as upload at least one picture. It’s not perfect, but this system does a better job of weeding out fake accounts than most threesome websites.
This unique threesome website has some cool features you won’t find on traditional dating apps. One of these is their synchronized chat feature, which allows all 3 partners to flirt simultaneously.
Or 4… or 5… whatever!
This is a surprisingly popular site, with over 2 million (mostly young) users. If you live in a big city or built-up metropolitan area, there should be plenty of unicorns or couples for you to browse through and find your perfect match.
6. Feeld — Best for Finding Polyamorous Partners
Pros
- Great specificity in your preferences
- Users often mature & sex-savvy
- Great for frank, up-front conversations
- One of the longest-running threesome websites
Cons
- Chat is extremely buggy
- Lots of blank profiles without pictures
Feeld is one of the oldest threesome-based sites, and it’s kind of a mix between Tinder, 3Fun, and FetLife in many ways.
One of the best things about the site is that it lets you be very specific about what you’re looking for. This obviously comes in very handy if you’re a couple trying to find a threesome partner.
The user base tends to be pretty sex-savvy as well. If you say you’re polyamorous or pansexual, everyone will know what you mean — and plenty of people will be into it.
What a relief, right?
In many ways, it’s one of the most mature hookup sites out there, as you can have frank discussions about exactly what you’re looking for without beating around the bush… so to speak.
7. Grindr — Best Gay Threesome App
Pros
- Huge LGBTQ+ user base
- Uses physical location to find matches
- Great for instant gratification
- Free version is excellent
Cons
- Difficult to filter matches
- Most guys don’t put much info in their profile
Grindr may be the king of casual sex apps, and it’s also a great place to find a threesome partner. Unlike some of the other sites and apps on this list, Grindr uses a geolocator to match you with guys that are in close physical proximity to you.
The app’s huge user base makes it a no-brainer pick for the best gay threesome site, but that base can also work against you. Because it uses your location to find matches, filtering those matches to find the perfect one isn’t easy.
Most people don’t provide much in the way of profile information, either.
The app does have both paid and free ad-supported options, but the free version is usually all most guys need to find some action. As long as you’re not too particular about your matches (or if you just want a threesome right this second), Grindr is an excellent choice for a free gay sex site.
8. 3somer — Best Dedicated Threesome App For Couples and Singles
Pros
- Completely dedicated to threesomes
- Open to any age or gender
- Supports both chat & voice messages
- Reverse search feature to find people looking for you
Cons
- Few verification protocols
- Small, mostly male user base
While other group sex sites (like 3Fun) have options for all sorts of things, like orgies or polyamory, 3Somer stays true to its name. This is for finding threesome partners, and nothing else.
This specificity limits the user base, and it only has a few hundred thousand registered people. However, you know everyone on there is open to a three-way.
It’s open to users of any age or gender, although most of the users are young and male. They require a photo upload to register, but they don’t have any other verification requirements.
No one can argue that the app doesn’t bend over backward to make threesomes happen, though. You can chat or send voice messages, and there’s a reverse search feature that helps you find people who are looking for someone like you.
What to Look for in Threesome Websites
Trying to find a partner for a threesome isn’t like trying to find a partner for a regular date. If you don’t know how to approach the situation, you’ll never be successful in finding your unicorn.
With that in mind, here are the criteria we used to rank the top threesome dating websites out there today:
- Large number of members: finding a threesome partner is a numbers game. If you don’t have a lot of people to choose from, it’ll take forever to get lucky.
- People interested in sex: anyone who’s looking to settle down won’t want to join you for a three-way. You want people who want wild, crazy, NSA sex.
- Certified users: finding someone interested in a threesome is easy — if you’re willing to settle for bots, spammers, and the like. If a site made an effort to confirm that their members were real, we gave them bonus points.
- Emphasis on kinky sex: you don’t want people who are only interested in lights-off missionary. As a general rule, the more sexually adventurous the user base, the more open they’ll be to a threesome — and some sites are devoted entirely to group sex.
None of this is to say that you can’t find a threesome partner on Tinder or Bumble or any of the other umpteen dating sites out there. If you want to maximize your chances of finding a third, though, you’ll want to look on one of the threesome websites on the list.
Conclusion – Which Threesome Dating Apps Are The Best?
Having a threesome remains the holy grail of sex for many people, and the sites above make it easier than ever to finally make it happen.
Adult Friend Finder represents your best chance of getting lucky due to its huge open-minded user base. However, every threesome site or threesome app on this list is capable of hooking you up with your next unicorn.
Better yet, if having threesomes somehow gets old, many of these sites will also help you find a fourth person…
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