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Survey: Women Fantasize About BDSM, Men Dream of Orgies. In Other News, Duh.

What are YOU thinking about?

What are YOU thinking about?

A recent study conducted at the University of Granada (random?) asked 2,250 Spanish hetero men and women about their sexual fantasies and found that, regardless of "Fifty Shades" obsession, women's intimate desires included more than their fair share of domination scenarios.

And guys were more than happy to imagine swapping wives, doing the hot MILF at the playground, or gathering together a group of nymphos to go at it no holds barred.

Doesn't seem to be too much of a culture shift here...ask any of your male and female friends and (especially after a margarita or three) they'll be more than happy to admit their dirty minds have room for very similar sex scenarios.

Nieves Moyano Muñoz led the study and only questioned couples who'd been in relationships for at least six months, finding that almost all subjects had experienced some kind of sexual fantasy in their lives -- and that there weren't many "significant" differences between men's and women's. Men even admitted to imagining a few domination scenarios, though doubtful that they included grey ties and a spank session from a blond Adonis in Seattle. ("Fifty Shades" shout-out, whut whut.)

Men admitted that they spend more time thinking about sex overall (duh) while women reported fantasizing just "a few" times a month (liars), which apparently was a greater frequency than what men claimed. And the more "extreme" fantasies -- including random promiscuity, swinging and orgy-dabbling -- were mostly male-centric and supposedly only crossed men's minds once a year. (Sure.)

"These are not very frequently experienced -- in normal life men and women have very similar fantasies," Muñoz said. "They have this type of fantasy about one or two times in their whole life."

But most surprising? Sexual submission, Anastasia Steele style, was apparently labeled the least enjoyable fantasy among women surveyed. (They're obviously doing it wrong.)

Regardless of your fantasy repertoire, I can't extol more the value of using your imagination and your brain -- the most important sex organ in your body -- when exploring your sexuality with or without a partner.

Fantasies provide, among other things, a sort of sexual meditation, allowing the thinker to stay focused on the act at hand. Once the fantasy is in full swing, it becomes close to impossible to penetrate that concentration -- which often is essential for the sex-to-orgasm process. (Especially for women.)

And it gives our minds some exercise from the norm, allowing us to explore desires without committing to purchasing a top-of-the-line leather strap-on or perusing Craigslist for a BBW who likes fisting.

The mind is our bodies' most powerful sex tool -- especially for women -- and it'll get flaccid, out of shape and stale if you don't let it explore. So get to it, and who cares if your thoughts are depraved, inappropriate and would make your grandma cry? It's all in your head and no one has to know.