Great Article and a very similar topic I've had with a number of my gay friends. Where is the next frontier for the gay society? I've said some of the things above, although in such a well written manner, and been called bigoted. The point I make is why do gays feel the need to self-segregate? I've recently needed help, my life was a mess, but I live on the outskirts of Los Angeles. I tried to find help in the gay society, classes, meetings, etc. but they were hard to get to, and most costly. I decided to turn to my own hometown, and found many people to be accepting. I found that I'm more like the guys of my hometown then I'm like the rest of gay society. My life has improved greatly in the past year and I'm continuing to make strides. Maybe I'm lucky, my hometown isn't that homophobic as originally thought. However, I feel we don't need to self-segregate or feel like we're different from other people.....because we're not.